How Can You Stand It?

How good can you stand it? Or, how often do you say “no” to what you really want?


What if someone offered to bring you breakfast in bed? Would you let them? What if love knocked on the door and asked to enter, would you let it? What if the possibility for prosperity presented itself? Would you take it? What if you were offered the ways and means to take a well deserved vacation? Would you agree?

This week, I want us to focus not only on being centered and aligned, but to actively begin reaching beyond our comfort zones for what we say we really want. We all have a few areas in our lives that no matter how hard we try, we cannot seem to find resolution. Some of us are perpetually behind the ball with finances, others go through relationships like water, some cannot lose weight or attain physical health. What’s even more interesting is that we are given one opportunity after another after another to resolve these core complexes, but consistently avoid or fail at them.

I have a friend who bemoans the fact that he cannot find a good woman to settle down with no matter how hard he tries. He wants this more than anything else. In fact, he wants it so badly that his neediness is broadcast in a radius all around him and any strong woman who smells that scent is naturally going to be repelled by it. What can he do? He can begin by embodying the qualities he designates as belonging to a good woman! Does he want her to be generous, kind, conscientious, sexy? He needs to be those things as well. Like attracts like. His neediness and immaturity consistently attract needy and immature women. When I suggest he learn to be what he seeks in a woman he reminds me that he cannot be those things until he finds her. In other words, he says “no.”

What areas do you feel trapped or stuck by? Ideally, how would you like to be instead? This week, work on creating a vision of that self who is not trapped or stuck. How does s/he live, move and have his/her being in the world? Get as detailed as possible as you go into this. Where do you live? What is your home like? What colors are you surrounded by? What scents and sounds? How much light and what kind? How high are the ceilings? Who lives there with you? Why? Do you have pets? Do you have land? What kinds of foods do you eat? How much rest do you get and in what kind of bed? What do you do for entertainment? What kinds of people are you surrounded by? Who do you love and who loves you? What kind of work do you do? How often and for how much money? What state is your health in? How comfortable are you in your body? In your mind? With your Spirit?

As you do this, look around at the your current situation. How close or far are you from your vision of the life where you are not stuck in a negative complex? What three small things can you do this week to bring you closer to that vision? Maybe you can buy yourself flowers, invite a friend to dinner or get to bed a little earlier. Maybe you could call that person you have a crush on, begin organizing your portfolio or make sure you get outside for a walk. Maybe you buy one beautiful drinking glass, or one bottle of really good shampoo or spend a half hour at the massage therapist. Pick three things. Next week, pick three more.

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